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Man Summit Survey
Guys: Cosmo Wants You!
Take Cosmopolitan.com’s juicy survey—millions of women are waiting to see your answers.
1.
How old are you?
Under 18
18 - 24
25 - 34
35 - 44
Over 45
2.
What’s the hardest part about dating today?
Putting myself out there and approaching women
Dealing when a woman wants to get serious too quickly
Finding someone I click with
Texting and tweeting—it’s hard to know what the other person is feeling
Figuring out what women want
Starting over when a relationship ends
Other (please specify)
3.
How worried are you about your financial situation?
Very worried
Pretty worried
Slightly worried
Not worried
4.
What’s the hardest thing about finding the right person to be in a relationship with?
Finding someone who understands me and who I can be myself around
Finding someone who’s a truly good, kind person
Finding someone who’s up for anything and will keep things exciting
5.
How much pressure do you think men feel to have it all: A great career, wife, kids, nice place, and a fun social life?
A lot.
Some pressure.
A little pressure.
None at all.
6.
How much pressure do you think women feel to have it all: A great career, husband, kids, nice place, and a fun social life?
A lot.
Some pressure.
A little pressure.
None at all.
7.
What are men most insecure about in the bedroom?
Whether their partner is enjoying herself
Whether their partner has an orgasm
Getting it up
Lasting long enough
Whether they’re being adventurous and creative enough
The size of their penis
What they look like naked
8.
Why do you think men are waiting longer to get married these days?
They’re less confident in the institution of marriage.
They enjoy being single and don’t want to be tied down too soon.
They’re waiting until they’re financially stable and have an established career.
There’s less pressure to get married and more couples are living together these days, so men can put it off.
They’re taking more time to find The One—they don’t want to make the wrong decision and marry someone who’s not right for them, like people of their parents generation.
They’re confused about what they want.
9.
Why do you think fewer men are enrolling in college these days?
They’re less ambitious than previous generations.
They’re more attracted to careers that don’t require a degree.
They’re less confident that a degree will lead to success.
They aren’t satisfied with the current education system.
The education system favors women.
10.
Would you rather have a female boss or male boss?
Female
Male
Doesn’t matter
11.
At what age do most men start thinking about settling down?
Under 18
18-22
23-26
27-30
31-35
Over 35
12.
At what age do most women start thinking about settling down?
Under 18
18-22
23-26
27-30
31-35
Over 35
13.
What is the most important factor for you when it comes to work?
Enjoying what I do
Money and status
Doing something I feel is important
Freedom and flexibility
14.
Please rank these in order of importance to you, from most important (1) to least important (5):
1
2
3
4
5
Having a successful career
1
2
3
4
5
Having great friends
1
2
3
4
5
Getting married
1
2
3
4
5
Having kids
1
2
3
4
5
Owning a home
1
2
3
4
5
Achieving personal goals (running a marathon, traveling, etc.)
1
2
3
4
5
15.
Do you think most men would feel uncomfortable if their partner had a bigger paycheck?
No.
Yes, because men need to feel they are the provider.
Yes, because women don’t respect men who make less than they do.
16.
How has the recent press about cheating boyfriends and husbands (Tiger, Jesse James, David Letterman, etc.) affected your view of fidelity?
It’s made cheating seem more normal—it’s not as shocking if someone I know cheats.
It’s made cheating seem even sleazier.
It hasn’t changed my thoughts on the subject.
17.
Do men still define success as a measure of financial status?
Yes
No
18.
Generations ago, men and women stuck to more rigid gender roles. If you could, would you go back to that?
Yes, I think relationships were easier to navigate then.
No, men and women understand each other better now that we have the same opportunities.
19.
Do you think your generation will have happier marriages than past generations?
Yes
No
20.
Are men less or more commitment-phobic now compared to previous generations?
Less
More
The same
21.
Do men today have it easier or harder than men of previous generations?
Easier
Harder
22.
Are guys in their 20s less or more ambitious now than they were a generation ago?
Less
More
23.
Rank the following qualities in order of how important you assume they are to women when assessing a man’s relationship potential. (1 is most important, 5 is least important)
1
2
3
4
5
Money
1
2
3
4
5
Looks
1
2
3
4
5
Humor
1
2
3
4
5
Intelligence
1
2
3
4
5
Compassion
1
2
3
4
5
24.
Rank the following qualities in order of how important they are to men when assessing a woman’s relationship potential. (1 is most important; 5 is least important)
1
2
3
4
5
Money
1
2
3
4
5
Looks
1
2
3
4
5
Humor
1
2
3
4
5
Intelligence
1
2
3
4
5
Compassion
1
2
3
4
5
25.
Do women have unrealistic expectations of men?
Yes, women expect men to be successful, share the housework, and be their best friend.
No, women have the same expectations that men have of them.
26.
If you could change one thing about women today, what would it be?
I wish they cared less about my paycheck and status. Some women are too materialistic.
I wish they were more nurturing—I like being taken care of.
I wish they would let me take the reins more often. They always want to make the decisions.
I wish they weren’t so focused on life goals like marriage and kids—they need to relax.
I wish they weren’t so work-obsessed. There are more important things in life.
27.
Are you worried that you partner will cheat on you?
Yes
No
I worry it could happen somewhere down the line, even though the relationship is secure right now.
28.
Are you worried that you will cheat on your partner?
Yes
No
I worry it could happen somewhere down the line, even though the relationship is secure right now.
29.
Could you forgive infidelity?
Yes
No
30.
How does your sex drive compare to your partner’s?
Mine is stronger.
Hers is stronger.
We both have equally strong sex drives.
Neither of us have strong sex drives.
31.
Would it bother you if your partner had slept with more people than you had?
Yes
No
32.
If you want kids, would you like your wife to stay at home to raise them?
Yes, it would be my preference. I think it’s best for our kid.
Sure, if that’s what she wanted. It wouldn’t matter to me.
No, I’d want us both to keep working.
No, I want to be the one to stay home with the kids.
It would depend on who had the more lucrative career.
I don’t want kids.
33.
If you want kids, would you rather have a boy or a girl?
Boy
Girl
I wouldn’t care either way.
I don’t want kids.
34.
How would you define “masculinity”?
Physical strength and bravery
Being a good husband and father—protecting your family, and fearlessly dealing with any problems
Ambition, decisiveness, and dominance—boldly pursuing what you want, and not letting anything get in the way of your goal
Kindness, compassion, and openmindedness—masculinity these days is more about being sensitive than it is about being strong
35.
Do you think men still have an advantage over women when it comes to getting ahead at work?
Yes
No
36.
Which traits are more important to have when it comes to achieving success?
Aggressiveness and competitiveness
Empathy, being a good communicator, and teamwork skills
37.
Who makes most of the decisions in your relationship (like what to do at night or where to go on vacation): you or your partner?
I do.
My partner does.
I’m not in a relationship.
38.
If your partner makes most of the decisions, why aren’t you more assertive?
She has stronger opinions than I.
I have too much else on my mind.
I don’t want to be blamed if a decision I make turns out badly.
I don’t want to create tension; it’s easier to just let her take the lead.
I make more decisions than my partner does.
39.
In general, do you think 20something men or women are more ambitious when it comes to achieving academic and career success?
Men
Women
The same
40.
When there’s something you want—from a job to a woman to a cool car—how confident are you that you can get it?
Very confident
Pretty confident
Slightly confident
Not confident
41.
The secret thing most women don’t understand about guys is:
Men are more sensitive than they seem.
Men want to find The One as much as women do.
Men want to feel needed. If a woman is overly independent or ambivalent, he’ll worry there isn’t a place for him in her life.
Men aren’t as confident as they may seem.
Men need time to be guys. Too often, women try to make them do girly things (like going to yoga or brunch), and men resent it.
