Not Married for Love

We appreciate your interest in our work on The New I Do, Reshaping Marriage for Cynics, Commitaphobes and Connubial DIYers.

Due to the large number of responses we received to our request to interview those who got married for reasons other than just love, we‘ve had to streamline our information gathering process, thus the questionnaire. We apologize for the impersonal nature of this questionnaire, but we are on a deadline (MS has to be submitted February 1, 2014)!

Once we receive your completed answers, we will determine if we need to follow up with you in which case one of us (Susan or Vicki) will contact you by phone or email.

For your ease, we have created a Survey Monkey questionnaire.

Please note that YOUR SPECIFIC PERSONAL INFORMATION WILL NOT BE PUBLICIZED. Things such as first and last names, addresses, and any other identifiable information you share with us will not be made public.

We consider any information that you send us about your story useable. We may use all or part of your story or we may change inconsequential details such as saying males instead of females or two children instead of three for the purposes of maintaining a sense of confidentiality.

Again, we thank you for your time and input. We’re extremely excited about this project and we appreciate your support! The book is due out in September of 2014 so stay tuned!

Sincerely,

Susan Pease Gadoua and Vicki Larson

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* 1. What is your name (last name optional but please include last initial)
What city, state and country do you currently live in?

name:

city/state/country:

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* 2. My demographic information is as follows:

male

female

white

black

asian

latino

native american

east indian

other

practicing christian

practicing jew

practicing muslim

practicing buddhist

I'm not religious

religious, but not practicing (pls list religion below)

18-25

26-35

36-45

46-55

55-65

over 65

Anything else we should know about your demographic?

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* 3. What's your current marital status and how many times have you been married?

married

separated

divorced

once

twice

three times

four times

five or more times (pls list # below)

(please specify)

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* 4. How long have you been married?

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* 5. Please check the answers that best represent why you got married.
(If you are not married, please tell us why in the space provided below)

romantic love &/or physical attraction

desire to start having children

I thought s/he would make a good co-parent

companionship (not wanting to be alone)

financial security (this incl. health ins)

to have a sexual partner

Other/still single (please specify)

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* 6. Please tell us how you feel about the role of love in marriage (if you already told us, feel free to cut and paste from your email here):

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* 7. Please describe why you feel your marital situation is non-traditional.

we are simply co-parents (nothing more)

we don't love each other

we have an arranged marriage

we have an open marriage

we have a time-limited marital agreement

we have a convenant marriage

we have a different arrangement (please describe below)

Other (please specify)

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* 8. Please tell us more about your situation (if you've already emailed it to us, please cut and paste your story here):

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* 9. Please tell us how you'd like to see marriage change and why.

time limited / renewable marriage

variety in the types of marriages out there

specific purposes for marriage (i.e. for parenting or financial security)

other (please describe)

Other (please specify)

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* 10. If we need to follow up with you, what is the best way to get a hold of you?

phone

text

Please include contact info here (email address &/or phone #)

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* 1. What is your name (last name optional but please include last initial) What city, state and country do you currently live in?

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* 2. My demographic information is as follows:

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* 3. What's your current marital status and how many times have you been married?

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* 4. How long have you been married?

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* 5. Please check the answers that best represent why you got married.(If you are not married, please tell us why in the space provided below)

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* 6. Please tell us how you feel about the role of love in marriage (if you already told us, feel free to cut and paste from your email here):

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* 7. Please describe why you feel your marital situation is non-traditional.

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* 8. Please tell us more about your situation (if you've already emailed it to us, please cut and paste your story here):

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* 9. Please tell us how you'd like to see marriage change and why.

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* 10. If we need to follow up with you, what is the best way to get a hold of you?

* 1. What is your name (last name optional but please include last initial)
What city, state and country do you currently live in?

* 5. Please check the answers that best represent why you got married.
(If you are not married, please tell us why in the space provided below)