Parenting Survey

A Survey About Parenting Styles

The purpose of this survey is to explore trends in parenting, as well as to compare parenting styles between parents. Please follow these instructions when answering the questions:

1. We all occasionally deviate from our preferred parenting style. When I use the term "regularly," I mean that something is typically a part of your parenting style. If you spanked your child once and regretted it, then spanking is not a regular part of your parenting style. However, if you regularly engage in behavior you regret, this is a part of your regular parenting style. For example, yelling at your kids most days makes it a regular part of your parenting.

2. Please be honest. Parenting is hard, and there is no judgment here.

3. If a question is not clear to you, please do not answer it. If a question does not apply to you, please do not answer it.

4. You co-parent refers to the person who co-parents with you. If your child's other parent has abandoned them, please think back on when that parent was present. If they were never present, leave questions about them blank. If someone who is not your child's parent is the most active parent--for example, a step-parent or grandparent--please answer questions about your co-parent with them in mind.

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1. In an ideal world, when you are parenting in the way you like best, please describe your parenting style.

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2. What is your gender?

man

woman

non-binary

other

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3. What is your co-parent's gender?

man

woman

non-binary

other

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4. Is your child neurodivergent?

Yes

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5. If your child is neurodivergent, please select the answers that most closely describe how their neurodivergence affects daily life. If your child is not neurodivergent, please skip this question.

My child has minimal support needs.

My child has some support needs; neurodivergence daily affects our decisions, but does not usually define our daily life.

My child has extensive support needs such that their neurodivergence is a factor in most aspects of family life.

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6. Have you ever sought professional support for your child beyond the usual child wellness visits? For example, has your child gone through psychotherapy or vision therapy or another similar service?

Yes

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7. If you have sought support services for your child, please tell me about your experience. Did you find it helpful? What happened?

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8. Has your family ever dealt with school anxiety/school refusal/school can't/severe school-related separation anxiety? Note that different regions use different terms, so answer yes if any apply to you.

Yes

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9. Have you ever experienced parent-shaming or judgment?

Yes

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10. Does your co-parent regularly parent shame you?

Yes

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11. Do you feel confident in your parenting style and choices?

Yes

usually

sometimes

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12. How many hours per month do you estimate you spend researching parenting?

100

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i We adjusted the number you entered based on the slider’s scale.

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13. How many hours per week do you estimate your partner spends researching parenting? .

100

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14. Do you believe it is ever appropriate to spank children?

Yes

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15. Does your co-parent believe it is ever appropriate to spank children?

Yes

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16. Even if you regret it now or no longer spank, have you ever spanked any of your children?

Yes

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17. Even if they regret it now or no longer spank, has your co-parent ever spanked any of your children?

Yes

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18. Do you regularly spank your children?

Yes

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19. Does your co-parent regularly spank your children?

Yes

I don't know

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20. Do you regularly insult your children or call them names?

Yes

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21. Does your co-parent regularly insult your children or call them names?

Yes

I don't know

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22. Please identify the three most significant differences in you and your co-parent's parenting style.

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23. Have you ever left a child under 5 unattended in the bath tub?

Yes

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24. Has your co-parent ever left a child under 5 unattended in the bath tub?

Yes

I don't know

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25. Do you make your child wear helmets every time they ride a bike or other wheeled toy?

Yes

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26. Does your co-parent make your child wear a helmet every time they ride a bike or another wheeled toy?

Yes

I don't know

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27. Please select the answers that best matches your approach to water safety for children under the age of 13.

A parent's eyes must be on a child in or near water at all times.

Children who are not competent swimmers must wear life jackets in or near water at all times.

Children who cannot swim must be supervised near the water, but children who can swim get a little more trust.

We have taught our children water safety limits, and trust them to listen.

Our children are excellent swimmers, and do not need constant water supervision.

Our children can swim, and need only minimal water supervision.

We supervise our children near the water, but not closely.

When in a group, we trust that all the adults will help to watch all the kids, so parents may take breaks.

We trust lifeguards to watch our children, so may not constantly supervise them.

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28. Please select the answers that best matches your co-parent's approach to water safety for children under the age of 13.

A parent's eyes must be on a child in or near water at all times.

Children who are not competent swimmers must wear life jackets in or near water at all times.

Children who cannot swim must be supervised near the water, but children who can swim get a little more trust.

We have taught our children water safety limits, and trust them to listen.

Our children are excellent swimmers, and do not need constant water supervision.

Our children can swim, and need only minimal water supervision.

We supervise our children near the water, but not closely.

When in a group, we trust that all the adults will help to watch all the kids, so parents may take breaks.

We trust lifeguards to watch our children, so may not constantly supervise them.

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29. Do you feel that your child is physically safe with your co-parent?

Yes

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30. Do you feel that your child is emotionally/psychologically safe with your co-parent?

Yes

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31. Do you limit screen time?

Yes

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32. Does your co-parent limit screen time?

Yes

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33. What is your biggest parenting challenge right now?

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34. Do you approve of your co-parent's parenting style?

Yes

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35. Does your co-parent approve of your parenting style?

Yes

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36. Would you characterize your co-parent's parenting as abusive?

Yes

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37. Would you characterize your parenting as abusive?

Yes

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38. What percentage of parenting do you do, on average?

0-10%

11-20%

21-30%

31-40%

41-50%

51-60%

61-70%

71-80%

81-90%

91-100%

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39. How many hours per week, on average, do you work for pay? Please include employee, freelancing, home business, and all other work that earns income? Do not include volunteering or unpaid work.

0-10 hours

11-20 hours

21-30 hours

31-40 hours

41-50 hours

51-60 hours

61 or more hours

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40. How many hours per week, on average, does your co-parent work for pay? Please include employee, freelancing, home business, and all other work that earns income? Do not include volunteering or unpaid work.

0-10 hours

11-20 hours

21-30 hours

31-40 hours

41-50 hours

51-60 hours

61 or more hours

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41. Do you do paid work that is emotionally draining or traumatizing?

Yes

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42. Does your partner do paid work that is emotionally draining or traumatizing?

Yes

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43. Do you do paid work that is very physically exhausting?

Yes

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44. Does your co-parent do paid work that is very physically exhausting?

Yes

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45. How many hours, per week, do you estimate you participate in your child's schooling? This includes reading IEPs, helping with homework, advocating for your child, preparing for special events, and similar tasks.

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i We adjusted the number you entered based on the slider’s scale.

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46. How many hours, per week, do you estimate your co-parent participates in your child's schooling? This includes reading IEPs, helping with homework, advocating for your child, preparing for special events, and similar tasks.

Clear

i We adjusted the number you entered based on the slider’s scale.

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47. Can you name all of the following: your child's pediatrician, all of your child's friends, all of your child's teachers, and any specialists they see?

Yes

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48. Can your partner name all of the following: your child's pediatrician, all of your child's friends, all of your child's teachers, and any specialists they see?

Yes

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49. If you were to go out of town overnight, would you need to leave detailed instructions for your partner to ensure your children were safe and well cared-for?

Yes

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50. Please select which of the following you are solely or primarily responsible for. If you and your partner split a duty equally, then do not check the box.

arranging and managing childcare

registering for school and overseeing school

scheduling and attending doctor, dentist, and other medical appointments

planning special events like birthdays

shopping for presents

planning playdates

meal planning and preparation

advocating for your child

teaching your child life skills

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51. Please select which of the following your partner is solely or primarily responsible for. If you and your partner split a duty equally, then do not check the box.

arranging and managing childcare

registering for school and overseeing school

scheduling and attending doctor, dentist, and other medical appointments

planning special events like birthdays

shopping for presents

planning playdates

meal planning and preparation

advocating for your child

teaching your child life skills

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52. Did you adopt your parents' parenting style?

Yes

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53. Did your co-parent adopt their parents' parenting style?

Yes

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54. Did your parents spank you?

Yes

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55. Did your partner's parents spank them??

Yes

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56. Please select all of the choices that you feel are true of your parenting.

I am breaking generational cycles of abuse and trauma.

I am reparenting myself.

I try to research best parenting practices.

I follow my gut and intuition more than research.

I am a better parent than my parents.

I am a better parent than my co-parent.

I am a better parent than most of my peers.

I am a worse parent than my parents.

I am a worse parent than my co-parent.

I am a worse parent than most of my peers.

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57. Please indicate which of the following parenting practices you have engaged in over the last month.

Reading parenting books.

Reading online parenting advice.

Consulting a therapist or other parenting expert.

Advocating for your child at school.

Discussing parenting decisions with a friend, co-parent, or family member.

Discussing parenting choices with your child.

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58. Please indicate which of the following parenting practices your co-parent has engaged in over the last month.

Reading parenting books.

Reading online parenting advice.

Consulting a therapist or other parenting expert.

Advocating for your child at school.

Discussing parenting decisions with a friend, co-parent, or family member.

Discussing parenting choices with your child.

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59. Please indicate which of the following parenting practices you have engaged in over the last month.

Putting your child in timeout.

Putting your child to bed without supper.

Taking away dessert or candy.

Taking away a toy or privileges.

Yelling.

Spanking.

Calling your child names.

Other punishments

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60. Please indicate which of the following parenting practices your co-parent has engaged in over the last month.

Putting your child in timeout.

Putting your child to bed without supper.

Taking away dessert or candy.

Taking away a toy or privileges.

Yelling.

Spanking.

Calling your child names.

Other punishments

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61. Do you often feel guilt or shame about your parenting?

Yes

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62. Please rate the quality of your parenting on a scale of 1-100.

100

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i We adjusted the number you entered based on the slider’s scale.

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63. Please rate the quality of your co-parent's parenting on a scale of 1-100.

100

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i We adjusted the number you entered based on the slider’s scale.

Parenting Survey

A Survey About Parenting Styles

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* 1. In an ideal world, when you are parenting in the way you like best, please describe your parenting style.

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* 2. What is your gender?

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* 3. What is your co-parent's gender?

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* 4. Is your child neurodivergent?

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* 5. If your child is neurodivergent, please select the answers that most closely describe how their neurodivergence affects daily life. If your child is not neurodivergent, please skip this question.

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* 6. Have you ever sought professional support for your child beyond the usual child wellness visits? For example, has your child gone through psychotherapy or vision therapy or another similar service?

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* 7. If you have sought support services for your child, please tell me about your experience. Did you find it helpful? What happened?

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* 8. Has your family ever dealt with school anxiety/school refusal/school can't/severe school-related separation anxiety? Note that different regions use different terms, so answer yes if any apply to you.

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* 9. Have you ever experienced parent-shaming or judgment?

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* 10. Does your co-parent regularly parent shame you?

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* 11. Do you feel confident in your parenting style and choices?

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* 12. How many hours per month do you estimate you spend researching parenting?

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* 13. How many hours per week do you estimate your partner spends researching parenting? .

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* 14. Do you believe it is ever appropriate to spank children?

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* 15. Does your co-parent believe it is ever appropriate to spank children?

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* 16. Even if you regret it now or no longer spank, have you ever spanked any of your children?

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* 17. Even if they regret it now or no longer spank, has your co-parent ever spanked any of your children?

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* 18. Do you regularly spank your children?

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* 19. Does your co-parent regularly spank your children?

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* 20. Do you regularly insult your children or call them names?

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* 21. Does your co-parent regularly insult your children or call them names?

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* 22. Please identify the three most significant differences in you and your co-parent's parenting style.

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* 23. Have you ever left a child under 5 unattended in the bath tub?

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* 24. Has your co-parent ever left a child under 5 unattended in the bath tub?

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* 25. Do you make your child wear helmets every time they ride a bike or other wheeled toy?

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* 26. Does your co-parent make your child wear a helmet every time they ride a bike or another wheeled toy?

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* 27. Please select the answers that best matches your approach to water safety for children under the age of 13.

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* 28. Please select the answers that best matches your co-parent's approach to water safety for children under the age of 13.

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* 29. Do you feel that your child is physically safe with your co-parent?

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* 30. Do you feel that your child is emotionally/psychologically safe with your co-parent?

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* 31. Do you limit screen time?

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* 32. Does your co-parent limit screen time?

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* 33. What is your biggest parenting challenge right now?

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* 34. Do you approve of your co-parent's parenting style?

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* 35. Does your co-parent approve of your parenting style?

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* 36. Would you characterize your co-parent's parenting as abusive?

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* 37. Would you characterize your parenting as abusive?

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* 38. What percentage of parenting do you do, on average?

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* 39. How many hours per week, on average, do you work for pay? Please include employee, freelancing, home business, and all other work that earns income? Do not include volunteering or unpaid work.

1. In an ideal world, when you are parenting in the way you like best, please describe your parenting style.

2. What is your gender?

3. What is your co-parent's gender?

4. Is your child neurodivergent?

5. If your child is neurodivergent, please select the answers that most closely describe how their neurodivergence affects daily life. If your child is not neurodivergent, please skip this question.

6. Have you ever sought professional support for your child beyond the usual child wellness visits? For example, has your child gone through psychotherapy or vision therapy or another similar service?

7. If you have sought support services for your child, please tell me about your experience. Did you find it helpful? What happened?

8. Has your family ever dealt with school anxiety/school refusal/school can't/severe school-related separation anxiety? Note that different regions use different terms, so answer yes if any apply to you.

9. Have you ever experienced parent-shaming or judgment?

10. Does your co-parent regularly parent shame you?

11. Do you feel confident in your parenting style and choices?

12. How many hours per month do you estimate you spend researching parenting?

13. How many hours per week do you estimate your partner spends researching parenting? .

14. Do you believe it is ever appropriate to spank children?

15. Does your co-parent believe it is ever appropriate to spank children?

16. Even if you regret it now or no longer spank, have you ever spanked any of your children?

17. Even if they regret it now or no longer spank, has your co-parent ever spanked any of your children?

18. Do you regularly spank your children?

19. Does your co-parent regularly spank your children?

20. Do you regularly insult your children or call them names?

21. Does your co-parent regularly insult your children or call them names?

22. Please identify the three most significant differences in you and your co-parent's parenting style.

23. Have you ever left a child under 5 unattended in the bath tub?

24. Has your co-parent ever left a child under 5 unattended in the bath tub?

25. Do you make your child wear helmets every time they ride a bike or other wheeled toy?

26. Does your co-parent make your child wear a helmet every time they ride a bike or another wheeled toy?

27. Please select the answers that best matches your approach to water safety for children under the age of 13.

28. Please select the answers that best matches your co-parent's approach to water safety for children under the age of 13.

29. Do you feel that your child is physically safe with your co-parent?

30. Do you feel that your child is emotionally/psychologically safe with your co-parent?

31. Do you limit screen time?

32. Does your co-parent limit screen time?

33. What is your biggest parenting challenge right now?

34. Do you approve of your co-parent's parenting style?

35. Does your co-parent approve of your parenting style?

36. Would you characterize your co-parent's parenting as abusive?

37. Would you characterize your parenting as abusive?

38. What percentage of parenting do you do, on average?

39. How many hours per week, on average, do you work for pay? Please include employee, freelancing, home business, and all other work that earns income? Do not include volunteering or unpaid work.

40. How many hours per week, on average, does your co-parent work for pay? Please include employee, freelancing, home business, and all other work that earns income? Do not include volunteering or unpaid work.

41. Do you do paid work that is emotionally draining or traumatizing?

42. Does your partner do paid work that is emotionally draining or traumatizing?

43. Do you do paid work that is very physically exhausting?

44. Does your co-parent do paid work that is very physically exhausting?

45. How many hours, per week, do you estimate you participate in your child's schooling? This includes reading IEPs, helping with homework, advocating for your child, preparing for special events, and similar tasks.

46. How many hours, per week, do you estimate your co-parent participates in your child's schooling? This includes reading IEPs, helping with homework, advocating for your child, preparing for special events, and similar tasks.

47. Can you name all of the following: your child's pediatrician, all of your child's friends, all of your child's teachers, and any specialists they see?

48. Can your partner name all of the following: your child's pediatrician, all of your child's friends, all of your child's teachers, and any specialists they see?

49. If you were to go out of town overnight, would you need to leave detailed instructions for your partner to ensure your children were safe and well cared-for?

50. Please select which of the following you are solely or primarily responsible for. If you and your partner split a duty equally, then do not check the box.

51. Please select which of the following your partner is solely or primarily responsible for. If you and your partner split a duty equally, then do not check the box.

52. Did you adopt your parents' parenting style?

53. Did your co-parent adopt their parents' parenting style?

54. Did your parents spank you?

55. Did your partner's parents spank them??

56. Please select all of the choices that you feel are true of your parenting.

57. Please indicate which of the following parenting practices you have engaged in over the last month.

58. Please indicate which of the following parenting practices your co-parent has engaged in over the last month.

59. Please indicate which of the following parenting practices you have engaged in over the last month.

60. Please indicate which of the following parenting practices your co-parent has engaged in over the last month.

61. Do you often feel guilt or shame about your parenting?

62. Please rate the quality of your parenting on a scale of 1-100.

63. Please rate the quality of your co-parent's parenting on a scale of 1-100.

64. Is there anything else you would like me to know about your experiences as a parent, with your co-parent, or parenting struggles you have faced?