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Are You Choosing Your Words Wisely?

Cultivate your Assertiveness

Reflect on your verbal habits and choose the answers that best describe you.

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* 1. About you

Name

Country

Email Address

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* 2. What generation do you belong to?

Traditionalists—born before 1946.

Baby Boomers—born between 1946 and 1964.

Generation X—born between 1965 and 1976.

Generation Y, or Millennials—born between 1977 and 1997.

Generation Z—born after 1997.

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* 3. How often do you.....?

	Frequently	Sometimes	Rarely	I don't know	Never
justify yourself/your contributions by using the word "Just"? i.e Just reaching out..., Just a quick...., Just wanted to ask..	justify yourself/your contributions by using the word "Just"? i.e Just reaching out..., Just a quick...., Just wanted to ask.. Frequently	justify yourself/your contributions by using the word "Just"? i.e Just reaching out..., Just a quick...., Just wanted to ask.. Sometimes	justify yourself/your contributions by using the word "Just"? i.e Just reaching out..., Just a quick...., Just wanted to ask.. Rarely	justify yourself/your contributions by using the word "Just"? i.e Just reaching out..., Just a quick...., Just wanted to ask.. I don't know	justify yourself/your contributions by using the word "Just"? i.e Just reaching out..., Just a quick...., Just wanted to ask.. Never
use qualifiers before sharing an idea? ie. "I'm no expert at this but"...., "Just thinking out loud here, "...., "I'm probably off base but....", etc	use qualifiers before sharing an idea? ie. "I'm no expert at this but"...., "Just thinking out loud here, "...., "I'm probably off base but....", etc Frequently	use qualifiers before sharing an idea? ie. "I'm no expert at this but"...., "Just thinking out loud here, "...., "I'm probably off base but....", etc Sometimes	use qualifiers before sharing an idea? ie. "I'm no expert at this but"...., "Just thinking out loud here, "...., "I'm probably off base but....", etc Rarely	use qualifiers before sharing an idea? ie. "I'm no expert at this but"...., "Just thinking out loud here, "...., "I'm probably off base but....", etc I don't know	use qualifiers before sharing an idea? ie. "I'm no expert at this but"...., "Just thinking out loud here, "...., "I'm probably off base but....", etc Never
make your statements, questions? So after you've expressed your thoughts, ask "Does that make sense?", "isn't that right?", "I hope that makes sense." ?	make your statements, questions? So after you've expressed your thoughts, ask "Does that make sense?", "isn't that right?", "I hope that makes sense." ? Frequently	make your statements, questions? So after you've expressed your thoughts, ask "Does that make sense?", "isn't that right?", "I hope that makes sense." ? Sometimes	make your statements, questions? So after you've expressed your thoughts, ask "Does that make sense?", "isn't that right?", "I hope that makes sense." ? Rarely	make your statements, questions? So after you've expressed your thoughts, ask "Does that make sense?", "isn't that right?", "I hope that makes sense." ? I don't know	make your statements, questions? So after you've expressed your thoughts, ask "Does that make sense?", "isn't that right?", "I hope that makes sense." ? Never
apologize unnecessarily? "I'm sorry, I just wanted to ask/say...." "I'm sorry, I'm not sure I'm being clear.", "I'm sorry, I'll be really quick and not take up too much of your time....", "I'm sorry, I just want to add...."	apologize unnecessarily? "I'm sorry, I just wanted to ask/say...." "I'm sorry, I'm not sure I'm being clear.", "I'm sorry, I'll be really quick and not take up too much of your time....", "I'm sorry, I just want to add...." Frequently	apologize unnecessarily? "I'm sorry, I just wanted to ask/say...." "I'm sorry, I'm not sure I'm being clear.", "I'm sorry, I'll be really quick and not take up too much of your time....", "I'm sorry, I just want to add...." Sometimes	apologize unnecessarily? "I'm sorry, I just wanted to ask/say...." "I'm sorry, I'm not sure I'm being clear.", "I'm sorry, I'll be really quick and not take up too much of your time....", "I'm sorry, I just want to add...." Rarely	apologize unnecessarily? "I'm sorry, I just wanted to ask/say...." "I'm sorry, I'm not sure I'm being clear.", "I'm sorry, I'll be really quick and not take up too much of your time....", "I'm sorry, I just want to add...." I don't know	apologize unnecessarily? "I'm sorry, I just wanted to ask/say...." "I'm sorry, I'm not sure I'm being clear.", "I'm sorry, I'll be really quick and not take up too much of your time....", "I'm sorry, I just want to add...." Never
soften your speech because you're afraid to come off too strongly? "I almost think we'd be better off by....." "I'm not 100% sure but...", "Perhaps we might consider looking at...". , "It would be great if you could find the time to look at..."	soften your speech because you're afraid to come off too strongly? "I almost think we'd be better off by....." "I'm not 100% sure but...", "Perhaps we might consider looking at...". , "It would be great if you could find the time to look at..." Frequently	soften your speech because you're afraid to come off too strongly? "I almost think we'd be better off by....." "I'm not 100% sure but...", "Perhaps we might consider looking at...". , "It would be great if you could find the time to look at..." Sometimes	soften your speech because you're afraid to come off too strongly? "I almost think we'd be better off by....." "I'm not 100% sure but...", "Perhaps we might consider looking at...". , "It would be great if you could find the time to look at..." Rarely	soften your speech because you're afraid to come off too strongly? "I almost think we'd be better off by....." "I'm not 100% sure but...", "Perhaps we might consider looking at...". , "It would be great if you could find the time to look at..." I don't know	soften your speech because you're afraid to come off too strongly? "I almost think we'd be better off by....." "I'm not 100% sure but...", "Perhaps we might consider looking at...". , "It would be great if you could find the time to look at..." Never
go into attack mode by yelling, insulting or resorting to threats in the workplace?	go into attack mode by yelling, insulting or resorting to threats in the workplace? Frequently	go into attack mode by yelling, insulting or resorting to threats in the workplace? Sometimes	go into attack mode by yelling, insulting or resorting to threats in the workplace? Rarely	go into attack mode by yelling, insulting or resorting to threats in the workplace? I don't know	go into attack mode by yelling, insulting or resorting to threats in the workplace? Never
display aggressive behaviour ? Which includes pacing, invading others’ personal space either when sitting or standing, having arms crossed, making large gestures, and pointing or stabbing a finger in someone’s direction. Aggressive approaches also include hearty back slapping or a crushing, painful hand shake.	display aggressive behaviour ? Which includes pacing, invading others’ personal space either when sitting or standing, having arms crossed, making large gestures, and pointing or stabbing a finger in someone’s direction. Aggressive approaches also include hearty back slapping or a crushing, painful hand shake. Frequently	display aggressive behaviour ? Which includes pacing, invading others’ personal space either when sitting or standing, having arms crossed, making large gestures, and pointing or stabbing a finger in someone’s direction. Aggressive approaches also include hearty back slapping or a crushing, painful hand shake. Sometimes	display aggressive behaviour ? Which includes pacing, invading others’ personal space either when sitting or standing, having arms crossed, making large gestures, and pointing or stabbing a finger in someone’s direction. Aggressive approaches also include hearty back slapping or a crushing, painful hand shake. Rarely	display aggressive behaviour ? Which includes pacing, invading others’ personal space either when sitting or standing, having arms crossed, making large gestures, and pointing or stabbing a finger in someone’s direction. Aggressive approaches also include hearty back slapping or a crushing, painful hand shake. I don't know	display aggressive behaviour ? Which includes pacing, invading others’ personal space either when sitting or standing, having arms crossed, making large gestures, and pointing or stabbing a finger in someone’s direction. Aggressive approaches also include hearty back slapping or a crushing, painful hand shake. Never
have difficulty making appropriate eye contact? You may find yourself staring at people or alternatively it an be difficult to make connected eye contact when you're speaking up.	have difficulty making appropriate eye contact? You may find yourself staring at people or alternatively it an be difficult to make connected eye contact when you're speaking up. Frequently	have difficulty making appropriate eye contact? You may find yourself staring at people or alternatively it an be difficult to make connected eye contact when you're speaking up. Sometimes	have difficulty making appropriate eye contact? You may find yourself staring at people or alternatively it an be difficult to make connected eye contact when you're speaking up. Rarely	have difficulty making appropriate eye contact? You may find yourself staring at people or alternatively it an be difficult to make connected eye contact when you're speaking up. I don't know	have difficulty making appropriate eye contact? You may find yourself staring at people or alternatively it an be difficult to make connected eye contact when you're speaking up. Never

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* 4. How often do you.....?

	Frequently	Sometimes	Rarely	I don't know	Never
stand your ground comfortably and productively in disagreements?	stand your ground comfortably and productively in disagreements? Frequently	stand your ground comfortably and productively in disagreements? Sometimes	stand your ground comfortably and productively in disagreements? Rarely	stand your ground comfortably and productively in disagreements? I don't know	stand your ground comfortably and productively in disagreements? Never
confidently share your thinking with phrases like "I'm confident that...", "I'm certain that..." ?	confidently share your thinking with phrases like "I'm confident that...", "I'm certain that..." ? Frequently	confidently share your thinking with phrases like "I'm confident that...", "I'm certain that..." ? Sometimes	confidently share your thinking with phrases like "I'm confident that...", "I'm certain that..." ? Rarely	confidently share your thinking with phrases like "I'm confident that...", "I'm certain that..." ? I don't know	confidently share your thinking with phrases like "I'm confident that...", "I'm certain that..." ? Never
display assertive behaviour? Which includes: good posture with relaxed stance, even with hands in pockets. When sitting in a meeting, sitting straight and leaning slightly forward indicate engagement. Hand gestures that are appropriate for the conversation are conservative and do not include pointing or jabbing.	display assertive behaviour? Which includes: good posture with relaxed stance, even with hands in pockets. When sitting in a meeting, sitting straight and leaning slightly forward indicate engagement. Hand gestures that are appropriate for the conversation are conservative and do not include pointing or jabbing. Frequently	display assertive behaviour? Which includes: good posture with relaxed stance, even with hands in pockets. When sitting in a meeting, sitting straight and leaning slightly forward indicate engagement. Hand gestures that are appropriate for the conversation are conservative and do not include pointing or jabbing. Sometimes	display assertive behaviour? Which includes: good posture with relaxed stance, even with hands in pockets. When sitting in a meeting, sitting straight and leaning slightly forward indicate engagement. Hand gestures that are appropriate for the conversation are conservative and do not include pointing or jabbing. Rarely	display assertive behaviour? Which includes: good posture with relaxed stance, even with hands in pockets. When sitting in a meeting, sitting straight and leaning slightly forward indicate engagement. Hand gestures that are appropriate for the conversation are conservative and do not include pointing or jabbing. I don't know	display assertive behaviour? Which includes: good posture with relaxed stance, even with hands in pockets. When sitting in a meeting, sitting straight and leaning slightly forward indicate engagement. Hand gestures that are appropriate for the conversation are conservative and do not include pointing or jabbing. Never
make connected eye contact with everyone in the room when you are speaking up in a meeting?	make connected eye contact with everyone in the room when you are speaking up in a meeting? Frequently	make connected eye contact with everyone in the room when you are speaking up in a meeting? Sometimes	make connected eye contact with everyone in the room when you are speaking up in a meeting? Rarely	make connected eye contact with everyone in the room when you are speaking up in a meeting? I don't know	make connected eye contact with everyone in the room when you are speaking up in a meeting? Never

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* 5. Indicate which scenarios below (if any) can be challenging for you to communicate clearly and confidently.

keeping others accountable

challenging the status quo

enrolling others in your ideas

advocating for yourself/putting yourself forward / asking for more

defending your position

small talk

clarifying yourself when misunderstood

saying no

None of the above

Other (please specify)

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* 6. How do you believe your key stakeholders would describe your default communication style?

passive-aggressive

passive

assertive

aggressive

Do you have a different view? If so, pls elaborate

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* 7. Which of the following reasons best describes why you think you may be habitually using minimizing words ?

It's an unconscious habit I picked up.

I'm afraid to be seen as aggressive/strident/bitchy

I'm not comfortable being assertive.

When I feel nervous about what I have to say to who I need to say it to.

I prefer to avoid conflict, I'm a people-pleaser.

I've been influenced by people in my workplace.

I don't know. I didn't know I was minimizing.

It feels polite and friendly.

I think people like it or expect it from me. I do it on purpose.

I don't minimize myself with weak word choices.

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* 8. If you minimize, do you want to break free of the habit ?

Yes.

Maybe , I'm not sure.

No thanks.

n/a - I don't minimize myself with weak word choices

Please explain your answer.

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* 9. If you're seen as aggressive, do you want to adjust to assertive?

Yes.

Maybe , I'm not sure.

No thanks.

n/a - I'm not seen as aggressive.

Please explain your answer.

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* 10. Do you want to join Vate's mailing list for periodic blog posts where JoAnn muses on strengthening communication?

Yes

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* 1. About you

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* 2. What generation do you belong to?

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* 3. How often do you.....?

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* 4. How often do you.....?

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* 5. Indicate which scenarios below (if any) can be challenging for you to communicate clearly and confidently.

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* 6. How do you believe your key stakeholders would describe your default communication style?

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* 7. Which of the following reasons best describes why you think you may be habitually using minimizing words ?

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* 8. If you minimize, do you want to break free of the habit ?

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* 9. If you're seen as aggressive, do you want to adjust to assertive?

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* 10. Do you want to join Vate's mailing list for periodic blog posts where JoAnn muses on strengthening communication?

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* 11. Out of interest, how did you discover this survey?