"LETTERS TO EX-SPOUSES:...AND I JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW"
Your participation in this CONFIDENTIAL research project is greatly appreciated!
Thank you for participating in this unique educational opportunity. I am writing a book that will be a collection of actual letters to ex-spouses from individuals such as yourself. These are not necessarily copies of letters that were ever sent to your ex-spouse, but are more likely to be letters you would be writing now - for the first time (which you may choose never to send), expressing to your ex-spouse what you “just wanted them to know” as you reflect back upon your marriage, divorce, and all that has followed (question 14, below).
My hope is that engaging in the actual introspection and writing of this anonymous letter will not only prove cathartic to you, but will serve as a tremendous contribution to the professions of psychology, law, theology and medicine - as therapists, family lawyers, clergy and psychiatrists have much to learn from the vantage point of your experience.
As to the letter, there is no page length, no direction you “should” take – other than to write from the heart. Although the letters will be published anonymously in my book, it is impossible to guarantee that someone will not recognize your letter or claim to recognize your letter; therefore, you may wish to modify certain distinguishing factors when you write your letter (e.g., any geographical locales identified; any names used or professions referenced; or, number/gender of any children mentioned). That said, I am requesting that, along with your letter, you complete a brief (2-5 minute) survey: for purposes of the survey, please be 100% ACCURATE and HONEST in your responses since this part of the book will be used for educational purposes.