This survey is for people in long-term relationships or marriages, and for people who have been in a long-term relationship sometime over the last 2 years. If you are no longer in a relationship, please take this survey with your most RECENT relationship in mind. If question does not apply to you, please SKIP THE QUESTION. Not all questions will apply to you, but it is still important to ask them. Asking a question that is not relevant to you is not a judgment. For the purposes of this survey, sex is whatever you define it to be. If you are non-monogamous or have multiple partners, please choose one partner for whom you would like to focus your survey questions. A Survey Monkey glitch causes scales to sometimes be morphed, such that 1-10 becomes 1-100, or the reverse. Your answers will still be rated correctly. Just choose the appropriate number. Please do not email me about this, as I cannot correct this glitch.

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* 1. What is your gender? 

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* 2. What is your partner's gender? 

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* 3. Do you have children?

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* 4. Please indicate how frequently, when having sex, you experience unintended pain.

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* 5. Have you ever been raped or sexually assaulted?

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* 6. Have you ever been raped or sexually assaulted by your current partner?

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* 7. Do you ever feel afraid to say no to sex with your partner?

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* 8. How many days, on average, do you and your partner have sex per month?

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* 9. On a scale of 1-10, where 1 is totally unsatisfied and 10 is totally satisfied, how satisfied are you with your sex life? A Survey Monkey glitch causes scales to sometimes be morphed, such that 1-10 becomes 1-100, or the reverse. Your answers will still be rated correctly. Just choose the appropriate number. Please do not email me about this, as I cannot correct this glitch.

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* 10. On a scale of 1-10, where 1 is totally unsatisfied and 10 is totally satisfied, how satisfied are you with your relationship? 

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* 11. What percentage of the time do you orgasm when having sex with your partner? 

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* 12. What percentage of the time do you estimate your partner orgasms while having sex with you?

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* 13. Please select the types of sex that are typically a part of your sexual interactions. This means that they are present more often than not.

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* 14. Has your partner ever coerced you into having sex you did not want to have? 

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* 15. What percentage of sexual interactions you have with your partner are undesired? I am referring not to coerced sex, but to agreeing to have sex you find boring or unappealing. 

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* 16. Has your partner ever forced you to have sex with them?

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* 17. Has your partner ever done any of the following: shoved, slapped, hit, punched, pinched, or otherwise physically attempted to injure you? 

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* 18. Would you characterize your partner as abusive?

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* 19. What percentage of household labor do you do? Household labor includes all labor necessary to maintain a house: caring for aging relatives, parenting, pet care, cleaning, emotional labor, etc.

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* 20. If you always or almost always want to have sex with your partner, please skip this question. Otherwise, please answer. Please check the most common reasons you decline sex with your partner.

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* 21. If you always or almost always want to have sex with your partner, please skip this question. Otherwise, please tell me what strategies your partner uses to try to convince you to have sex. Check all that apply.

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* 22. If you always or almost always want to have sex with your partner, please skip this question. Otherwise, please answer: If there is anything your partner could do to make you more interested in sex, please check all options that would increase your interest in sex.

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* 23. Please check which of the following your partner (or ex-partner, if you were together during the last 12 months) did to you at least once during the last year. 

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* 24. If you do not have children living at home, please ignore this question. Otherwise, how old is your youngest child?

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* 25. Have you ever been sexually assaulted? 

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* 26. Do you regret getting into a relationship with your current partner? 

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* 27. What do you wish someone had told you about sex in relationships when you were younger? 

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* 28. What is your biggest issue or frustration with sex in this relationship? 

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* 29. Does your partner regularly view pornography? 

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* 30. During your relationship, has your partner ever hired a sex worker? 

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* 31. During your relationship, have you ever hired a sex worker? 

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* 32. Please indicate how you feel about your sex life.

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* 33. Please indicate how you think your partner feels about your sex life.

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* 34. Do you feel your partner has a good idea of what you like sexually?

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* 35. Do you feel you have a good idea of what your partner likes sexually?

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* 36. Do you feel comfortable discussing your sexual needs with your partner? 

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* 37. Has your partner ever complained about your sexual needs? 

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* 38. Does your partner ever complain that it should be easier to make you have an orgasm? 

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* 39. Who in your relationship initiates or wants sex more frequently?

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* 40. Have you ever been unfaithful, as you define it, to your partner? If you are poly or monogamish or otherwise non-monogamous, please use your own definition of infidelity. 

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* 41. Do you know or believe your partner has ever been unfaithful, as you define it? If you are poly or monogamish or otherwise non-monogamous, please use your own definition of infidelity. 

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* 42. Has your partner ever raped you? 

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* 43. Has your partner ever made negative comments about your appearance or body? 

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* 44. If you answered yes to the above question, tell me about the negative comments your partner has made.

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* 45. Is there anything I did not ask that you wish I did ask? 

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* 46. Do you want to be in this relationship?

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* 47. Do you like your partner?

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* 48. Do you love your partner?

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* 49. On a a scale of 0-100% of the time, please indicate the frequency with which you fake orgasms.

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* 50. Do you feel safe saying no to sex?

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