How ready are you for the relationships, expectations, and familiar patterns that may come with Thanksgiving?
Thanksgiving can bring people together with years of relationship history. Preparing does not mean expecting something to go wrong. Readiness means thinking about what you already know, what you can reasonably expect, and what you may need from yourself before the gathering begins.
How to Respond

Think about the Thanksgiving gathering you expect to attend this year. For each statement, select the response that best reflects how prepared you feel right now.

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1. I have realistic expectations about the people I will spend Thanksgiving with. (Required.)

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2. I can identify familiar family patterns that may happen again this Thanksgiving. (Required.)

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3. I am prepared for someone to behave in a way they have demonstrated before. (Required.)

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4. I can recognize when I am hoping someone will behave differently despite an established pattern. (Required.)

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5. I know which conversations or topics are likely to create tension for me. (Required.)

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6. I have considered which conversations I am willing to participate in. (Required.)

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7. I know how I want to respond if someone asks a question I do not want to answer. (Required.)

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8. I am prepared to step away from a conversation when I no longer want to participate. (Required.)

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9. I know which behaviors or situations are most likely to frustrate or overwhelm me. (Required.)

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10. I can recognize when I need a break, some space, or time away from the gathering. (Required.)

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11. I have a realistic idea of how much time I want to spend at the gathering. (Required.)

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12. I have considered how I will leave if I decide I am ready to go. (Required.)

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13. I have identified at least one person I can turn to if I need support. (Required.)

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14. I have considered what I need before, during, or after Thanksgiving to support myself. (Required.)

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15. I have made commitments to myself about Thanksgiving that I can realistically keep. (Required.)

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16. I am prepared to follow through on those commitments even if someone else is disappointed by my decision. (Required.)

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17. I can distinguish between what I can control about Thanksgiving and what belongs to other people. (Required.)

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18. I am prepared to make decisions based on what is actually happening rather than what I hoped would happen. (Required.)

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19. I can leave room for someone to give me new information if their behavior is different this year. (Required.)

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20. I feel prepared to make decisions for myself based on what I know about my relationships, my own patterns, and what I need. (Required.)

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