QUIZ: Do you know how to say 'NO'?

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* 1. You meet some friends at a pizza parlor for dinner. When deciding on what toppings to get on the extra-large you all plan to share, you:

Speak up loud and clear about your preferences (and let them know you’re flexible that you can pick off any that you don’t like).

Mention one or two toppings that you like.

Let the group choose.

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* 2. Your child’s school sent an urgent request for volunteers this Friday night for a movie-night fundraiser. They are asking for help from 5pm – 8pm. You’ve already made plans with your best friend whom you haven’t seen in months (and it was tough to find a day and time that worked for you both). What do you do?

Call your friend and see if they're able to reschedule to next week; if they can than you let the school know you can volunteer.

Tell the school you’re sorry but can’t volunteer this time due to prior obligations.

Respond to the school that you’ll be there and cancel with your friend.

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* 3. You have five minutes until you have to run out the door to make it to work on time. You haven’t eaten breakfast or packed a lunch yet. Your phone starts ringing and it’s your drama-queen sister with yet another life crisis. You know if you answer the call you won’t be able to grab breakfast. What do you do?

Answer the call. Listening to her guilt trip about why you didn’t answer the phone is worse than skipping breakfast/lunch. You can always grab a handful of jellybeans out of your co-workers candy jar to snack on.

Let the call go to voicemail, grab a frozen lunch and granola bar for breakfast and run out the door. You can call her on your lunch break.

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* 4. It’s already a hectic day at work and it’s only 10:45am. You have 10 urgent emails to reply to and a meeting in 15 minutes. You also have to use the bathroom, badly. Do you skip the bathroom to get your work done?

Never. When you gotta go, you gotta go.

Sometimes… Depends on how long the meeting is and when the next chance is you’ll get to go.

Always. It’s better to be uncomfortable then show up late to a meeting.

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* 5. It’s Sunday afternoon, and by some strange twist-of-fate, you have no plans for the next few hours. How do you spend your time?

Pick up your spouse’s dry-cleaning, research summer camps for the kids, and head to the store to buy a new fidget spinner for your child because they lost theirs.

Grab your favorite book and a glass of iced tea and sit in the hammock reading and listen to birds chirp.

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* 6. Your parents are getting older and needing more and more support. While they are still able to care for themselves and live independently, they don't like driving. Your mom just called and asked if you can drive her to her afternoon doctor appointment. You have a to-do list that’s a mile long, some with urgent deadlines. What do you do?

Call your boss and let them know an urgent appointment came up and you have to leave early. Take your phone and laptop with you as you drive your mom to the appointment, work from the waiting room, and stay up past midnight catching up on emails and work projects.

Coordinate with your sibling to divide up the driving – you arrange to drop off your mom and your sibling picks up mom. You are able to take a late lunch to drive her and don’t get too far behind.

Apologize to mom that you won’t be able to drive today. Arrange an Uber ride for her to and from her appointment and check in with her after her appointment to find out how it went.

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* 7. It’s your first day off in a week, and a much needed day off. As you’re catching up on chores and binge watching Netflix a co-worker calls and asks you to cover their shift tonight. What do you tell them?

“Um, I kind of had plans, but I guess I can. Can you take my shift tomorrow in trade?”

“Sure”

“Oh, I’m sorry, I can’t. I have plans.”

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* 8. Your professor announces a major group project and the people you’re placed with don’t seem to want to take the lead in organizing and preparing the project. Do you:

Volunteer as the lead even though you know you don’t have the time in your life and will have to sacrifice your free time to get it done.

You stay quiet for a few minutes and then reluctantly offer your skills and request someone co-leads the project with you. Luckily someone steps up and you can share the responsibility.

Verbalize early on in group meetings that due to other obligations you aren’t able to give 100% as leader for this project, but describe how you will be active and thorough on the sections you take on.

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* 9. You get off work an hour early and have time before picking up you kid from daycare. You’ve skipped your workouts all week and feel your body feels sluggish and needs a work out. Do you go to gym?

Always! Whenever I have a free hour I invest in myself. I’m a better parent when I feel recharged.

Sometimes. It depends on the situation and how much guilt I have around choosing the gym over my kids.

Never. But I will try to do something outside and active with the kids, even though playing catch with a 2 year old is not the same as a 30-minute boot-camp class.

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* 10. You and your friends are planning a night on the town. A friend-of-a-friend that is also attending calls you up and asks for a ride. It would require you to drive 30 minute drive in the opposite direction to pick them up and then drop them off after. What do you say?

“Unfortunately, that’s way out of my way to come pick you up. I’m pretty sure Jess lives over by you, what about seeing if they can give you a ride?”

Let the call go to voice mail, wait to the last minute and then text that you didn’t see their message and already left the house and can’t pick them up.

(Sigh heavily) “Yup, I can. I’ll be there at 8pm”