Survey for Bi-gender People

There appears to never have previously been a detailed survey of bi-gender people. This survey was prepared by James-Beth Merritt, a bi-gender writer whose book on their bi-gender experience, Bi-Gender: A Candid Nonbinary Memoir, is now available in paperback and Kindle editions.

All results of this survey will remain anonymous, and no individual responses will be published, though results from many respondents may be summarized to help educate the public about bi-genderism. It takes about 15 minutes to complete.

This survey is only for people who identify as bi-gender. It is up to you and you alone if you identify as bi-gender. You don't have to present to the world in any particular way to participate in this survey.

When this survey talks about how you "identify," that's about you feel inside. When it talks about how you "present," that's about how you look, sound, or act.

IMPORTANT MADE-UP TERM: In this survey, "SAB" means the sex you were assigned at birth, or the gender matching that sex. This doesn't necessarily have anything to do with your gender identity, but it would be, for instance, the sex that shows up on your original birth certificate.

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* 1. What's your age?

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* 2. How long have you identified as bi-gender?

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* 3. How confident do you feel that you're bi-gender?

There's no question in my mind

I feel pretty certain I'm bi-gender

I think it's likely I'm bi-gender, but I might not be

There's a possibility that I'm bi-gender, but I probably am not

I'm not bi-gender

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* 4. What country and (optional) state or province do you live in?

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* 5. What sex were you assigned at birth (your SAB)?

Male

Female

Intersex or other

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* 6. What gender do you identify with the most? (If they're balanced, choose either one.) We'll be calling this your "first gender."

Male

Female

Other (please describe if possible)

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* 7. What is your other gender?

Male

Female

Other (please describe if possible)

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* 8. How do you experience your two gender identities?

I shift between being mainly or entirely one and being mainly or entirely the other

I usually or always experience them at the same time

I sometimes am just one of my genders and sometimes experience both at the same time

Other (please describe)

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* 9. If your gender identity shifts, how much control or direction do you have over these shifts?

I don't shift: my gender identity pretty much stays the same

I have little or no control over my gender shifts

I have some control over my gender shifts

I can generally choose my gender identity, but there are limits

I have complete control over which gender I am at any given time

Other (please describe)

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* 10. If your gender identity shifts, how often do your shifts typically occur?

I don't shift: my gender identity pretty much stays the same

My gender typically stays the same for weeks or longer at a time

My gender often shifts in the course of a few days

My gender often shifts within a day

My gender can shift multiple times in a day

My gender is changing constantly

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* 11. How would you describe your sexual orientation? Check all that apply

Attracted only to women

Attracted only to men

Bisexual (I am attracted to both men and women)

Pansexual (I am attracted to all genders)

My sexual orientation changes with my gender

Demisexual (I am not normally attracted to anyone, but attraction can sometimes emerge if I develop a close relationship)

Asexual (I am not attracted to anyone)

Other (please specify)

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* 12. What is the earliest age at which you can remember questioning or being confused about your gender, or deciding that your SAB did not fit?

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* 13. What age were you when you concluded you were bi-gender (whether or not you knew that word at the time)?

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* 14. Prior to identifying as bi-gender, did you do any of the following for a long time (not just to experiment) as a gender other than your SAB? Mark any that apply

Dressing or presenting as that gender in public

Dressing or presenting as that gender in private

Using virtual reality as an avatar of that gender, with your SAB not obvious to others

Using virtual reality as an avatar of that gender, with your SAB obvious to others

Playing online RPGs as that gender, with your SAB not obvious to others

Playing online RPGs as that gender, with your SAB obvious to others

Writing as that gender (letters, e-mails, pseudonyms for work intended for publication, etc.)

Participating in online forums or communities as that gender, with your SAB not obvious to others

Other (please specify)

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* 15. Have you ever tried to be cisgender (the same gender as your SAB) instead of bigender or transgender?

No, I've always accepted my gender identity

Yes, here and there I made efforts to stop being bigender

Yes, I've tried very hard not to be bigender, but I stopped trying

Yes, I've tried very hard not to be bigender and continue to do so

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* 16. Which option best describes your current feelings about being bi-gender?

I'm very happy to be bi-gender and I don't have many worries about it

I'm mostly happy to be bi-gender, but every once in a while it's frustrating, difficult, and/or depressing

I have mixed feelings about bi-gender. There are good things and bad things about it

I accept my bi-genderism, but I'm not happy about it

I am very unhappy with being bi-gender

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* 17. How often do you present (appear as) as a gender other than your SAB, whether publicly or privately?

Practically every day

More than once a week

About once a week

More than once a month

About once a month

Very occasionally

Never

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* 18. What percentage of time would you estimate you spend as the gender that matches your SAB? (If none, put 0)

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* 19. What percentage of the time do you identify as a gender that doesn't match your SAB?

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* 20. How confident do you feel when presenting as a gender other than your SAB?

Completely confident; no worries

Confident most of the time, but with some concerns

Neither confident nor unconfident

Not very confident

Completely unconfident

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* 21. On average, how often do you go out in public presenting as a gender other than your SAB?

Practically every day

More than once a week

About once a week

More than once a month

About once a month

Very occasionally

Never

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* 22. How much impact do concerns about new problems in relationships, bad reactions or judgment from other people, unhappiness with how you present as a gender other than your SAB, and other drawbacks have on your bi-gender identity?

If it weren't for these negative consequences, I could and would transition to being that other gender full-time

If it weren't for these negative consequences, I might transition to being that other gender full-time

It affects how much I experience and/or present that other gender, but I'm bi-gender regardless of those things

It has no effect on my gender identity

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* 23. How public is your gender identity?

I'm completely public with the fact that I'm bi-gender

I offer the information that I'm bi-gender regularly and present however I like, but not everyone knows

I'm open with my bi-gender identity to a number of people, but there are important areas of my life (examples might be with some close family members or at work) in which I don't reveal it

I'm not open about my bi-gender identity except to a few people

No one else knows I'm bi-gender

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* 24. How have people who know you're bi-gender or transgender treated you?

Everyone has been wonderful

Most people have been considerate or kind, but some people have been awkward or a little unsupportive

A small number of people have been unkind or have tried to deny my gender identity

Many people are unkind or have tried to deny my gender identity

No one else knows I'm bi-gender

Other (please specify)

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* 25. (Optional) If your gender identity changes, describe a typical experience of that kind of shift.

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* 26. (Optional) What actions, choices, or resources have been most helpful to you as a bi-gender person?

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* 27. If you want to, you can give your first name or names here:

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* 28. If you'd like to receive results from this survey or to be in touch with James Beth to talk about bi-gender issues, you can give your e-mail here. Leave blank to remain anonymous.

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* 1. What's your age?

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* 2. How long have you identified as bi-gender?

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* 3. How confident do you feel that you're bi-gender?

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* 4. What country and (optional) state or province do you live in?

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* 5. What sex were you assigned at birth (your SAB)?

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* 6. What gender do you identify with the most? (If they're balanced, choose either one.) We'll be calling this your "first gender."

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* 7. What is your other gender?

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* 8. How do you experience your two gender identities?

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* 9. If your gender identity shifts, how much control or direction do you have over these shifts?

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* 10. If your gender identity shifts, how often do your shifts typically occur?

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* 11. How would you describe your sexual orientation? Check all that apply

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* 12. What is the earliest age at which you can remember questioning or being confused about your gender, or deciding that your SAB did not fit?

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* 13. What age were you when you concluded you were bi-gender (whether or not you knew that word at the time)?

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* 14. Prior to identifying as bi-gender, did you do any of the following for a long time (not just to experiment) as a gender other than your SAB? Mark any that apply

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* 15. Have you ever tried to be cisgender (the same gender as your SAB) instead of bigender or transgender?

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* 16. Which option best describes your current feelings about being bi-gender?

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* 17. How often do you present (appear as) as a gender other than your SAB, whether publicly or privately?

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* 18. What percentage of time would you estimate you spend as the gender that matches your SAB? (If none, put 0)

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* 19. What percentage of the time do you identify as a gender that doesn't match your SAB?

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* 20. How confident do you feel when presenting as a gender other than your SAB?

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* 21. On average, how often do you go out in public presenting as a gender other than your SAB?

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* 22. How much impact do concerns about new problems in relationships, bad reactions or judgment from other people, unhappiness with how you present as a gender other than your SAB, and other drawbacks have on your bi-gender identity?

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* 23. How public is your gender identity?

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* 24. How have people who know you're bi-gender or transgender treated you?

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* 25. (Optional) If your gender identity changes, describe a typical experience of that kind of shift.

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* 26. (Optional) What actions, choices, or resources have been most helpful to you as a bi-gender person?

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* 27. If you want to, you can give your first name or names here:

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* 28. If you'd like to receive results from this survey or to be in touch with James Beth to talk about bi-gender issues, you can give your e-mail here. Leave blank to remain anonymous.

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* 29. Any comments or questions?