Betrayal Trauma Anger Survey

I am Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck, my credentials include a Doctor of Education Degree, Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, Certified Clinical Betrayed Partner Specialist, and Certified Anger Management Specialist.  I created this survey for the purpose of gathering information for a book I am writing on the topic of Betrayal Trauma Anger.  In addition, I hope to use the information as a resource to help professional coaches, therapists, and faith leaders provide more empathetic and effective services for people who have been sexually betrayed by their intimate partner and are experiencing complex anger as a result of the impact of betrayal.

This survey was reviewed by the Pearl International Review Board. 

Please do not participate in this survey unless you are 18 years old or older.

Answering these questions may result in experiencing negative thoughts and/or emotions.  You may find it helpful to practice self-care afterwards such as talking with a safe person, journaling your thoughts and emotions, taking a walk, spending time with a pet, listening to calming music, meditation, deep breathing, yoga, or other self-soothing activities.

Trauma Triggers are anything that reminds you of the betrayal such as a thought, sound, smell, name, word, picture, place, person, etc. and can be terrifying, all-consuming, and are unique to each betrayed partner's impact from the traumatic discovery of betrayal by a person they trusted.
 

The survey will refer to you, the person who has experienced intimate betrayal, as the Betrayed.  The intimate partner who betrayed you is referred to as the Betrayer. 

Sexual betrayal may include one time, several times, or chronic betrayal over a period of time.  Betrayal activities include, but are not limited to pornography, inappropriate or sexual conversations online or in-person, emotional or sexual affairs, soliciting prostitution, visiting massage parlors for prostitution activity, and using online dating apps.

Betrayal may also include being deceived by someone you trusted who knew about or engaged in the betrayal with your intimate partner.

Discovery represents the day of and manner in which you discovered information that you were being betrayed.

Therapeutic Disclosure refers to the formal process when the betrayer tells the betrayed all of their betrayal activities and is done with the support of a trained professional.