YourTango "How Do YOU Define Cheating?" Survey 2017 Question Title * 1. What gender do you self-identify with the most? Male Female Other OK Question Title * 2. In what country do you currently reside? United States Other (please specify) OK Question Title * 3. In which region of the United States do you live? 1. New England (Maine, New Hampshire, Vermont, Massachusetts, Rhode Island, Connecticut) 2. Middle Atlantic (New York, New Jersey, Pennsylvania) 3. East North Central (Ohio, Indiana, Illinois, Michigan, Wisconsin) 4. West North Central (Minnesota, Iowa, Missouri, North Dakota, South Dakota, Nebraska, Kansas) 5. South Atlantic (Delaware, Maryland, District of Columbia, Virginia, West Virginia, North Carolina, South Carolina, Georgia, Florida) 6. East South Central (Kentucky, Tennessee, Alabama, Mississippi) 7. West South Central (Arkansas, Louisiana, Oklahoma, Texas) 8. Mountain (Montana, Idaho, Wyoming, Colorado, New Mexico, Arizona, Utah, Nevada) 9. Pacific (Washington, Oregon, California, Alaska, Hawaii) OK Question Title * 4. What is your age? 18-24 25-30 31-40 41-50 51-60 60-75 76+ OK Question Title * 5. What is your relationship status? Single and looking It’s complicated Dating someone Living together Married Single and not currently looking OK Question Title * 6. Which statement best describes your opinion of “open relationships”? They’re immoral. They work for some people but not others. They are the ideal (monogamy is hard!) Great in theory, but usually don’t work. I wish I knew more about them. No opinion or don’t care. OK Question Title * 7. How important are monogamous relationships to you? Very important. Somewhat important. Slightly important. Not important at all. OK Question Title * 8. How often do you get “strong butterflies in your stomach” or feel excited at the idea of flirting with someone else? Every week. Once a month. Maybe a few times a year. Once a year. It’s been years. I can’t even remember. OK Question Title * 9. Is it possible to be 'truly in love' with more than one person at a time? Yes No OK Question Title * 10. Which statement best describes your understanding of why people cheat rather than leave a spouse/partner? They love their partner, but are looking for more sexual fulfillment. They love their partner, but are looking for more emotional fulfillment. They want to keep their family together. They’re afraid of leaving their partner. They want to use the affair to end their relationship/marriage. They find it exciting. OK Question Title * 11. What is more damaging to a marriage or long-term relationship – a physical affair or an emotional affair? Physical affair Emotional affair OK Question Title * 12. Which of these actions do you think fall under the definition of "cheating," if you’re in a committed relationship? (Please check all that apply.) Fantasizing about another person. Flirting with another person where there’s sexual innuendo. Browsing dating websites. Interacting with other people on a dating website. Sexting with another person. Kissing another person. Holding hands or other non-sexual physical contact. Sexual intercourse. All of the above. OK Question Title * 13. In your opinion, when does “cheating” begin? When you start keeping secrets from your significant other. When you admit romantic/emotional feelings for someone outside of your relationship. When you have physical/sexual contact with someone outside of your relationship. OK Question Title * 14. I am sexually fulfilled in my current relationship. Strongly agree. Agree. Neutral. Disagree. Strongly disagree. OK Question Title * 15. I am emotionally fulfilled in my current relationship. Strongly agree. Agree. Neutral. Disagree. Strongly disagree. OK Question Title * 16. My partner is emotionally fulfilled in our relationship. Strongly agree. Agree. Neutral. Disagree. Strongly disagree. OK Question Title * 17. My partner is sexually fulfilled in our relationship. Strongly agree. Agree. Neutral. Disagree. Strongly disagree. OK Question Title * 18. Cheating is a forgivable offense: Yes No OK Question Title * 19. If you have been tempted to cheat in the past, but have not done so, what best describes your main reason for not cheating? Love. Morals. Religious objections. Fear. Trust. Lack of options. Lack of interest. Other (please specify) OK Question Title * 20. Sometimes I think about cheating on my partner. Yes No OK Question Title * 21. How important is regular, mutually satisfying sex to a happy, lasting relationship? Very important Important Somewhat important Not important OK Question Title * 22. In an ideal world, how often would you have sex with your partner? Every day Multiple times a week Once a week Once a month Once every few months Never or almost never. OK Question Title * 23. In reality, how often do you have sex with your partner? Every day Multiple times a week Once a week Once a month Once every few months Never or almost never OK Question Title * 24. How open are you to the idea of an open relationship or a non-traditional relationship? (Swinging, polyamory, 3-way sex, open relationship, etc.) I’m there already! Waiting for everyone else to keep up. Not at all. I admit that I am curious. Have tried and wasn’t for me. I'd be into ________ (please specify) OK Question Title * 25. How would you pursue a side relationship if you were already in a committed relationship but unhappy? Approach someone I already know as a friend Approach someone from work or school Find someone online using social media Meeting a stranger at a bar or on a trip Sign-up for an anonymous dating site/app Other (please specify) OK Question Title * 26. Do you keep secrets from your partner? No. Rarely. Yes, but they’re small. Yes, and they’re big. OK Question Title * 27. Is it OK to keep secrets from a spouse/significant other to protect their feelings or preserve the relationship? Yes. No. OK Question Title * 28. Do you think it is easier or harder for women to find sexual satisfaction in a long-term relationship/marriage than men? Harder for men Harder for women Same degree of difficulty OK Question Title * 29. If you could have the best sex of your life outside of your relationship and your partner/spouse would NEVER find out about it, would you do it? Yes No OK Question Title * 30. If given the same choice, do you think your partner/spouse would do it? Yes No OK Question Title * 31. Have you been cheated on? Yes, and it destroyed our relationship. Yes, and we recovered from it (or are trying to recover from it). Yes, but I found out after the relationship was over. Not that I know of. OK Question Title * 32. Have you ever cheated on a partner? Yes, and it was awesome. Yes, and I regret it. No, but came close. No. OK Question Title * 33. Would you like to cheat on your partner? (which answer matches best) Yes, because I’m bored. Yes, because I don’t feel valued. Yes, because we don’t have satisfying sex (frequency or type). Yes, because I feel lonely. Yes, because I am angry at my partner. Yes, because I sometimes meet other people that are really attractive. Yes, but other reason (please explain). Yes, but I never would. No. OK Question Title * 34. If you cheated on someone or you would like to cheat, why? What are/were you looking for and what happened? OK Question Title * 35. If you would like to be entered into the drawing for the prize, please provide an email address where we can contact you. (Note: We value and respect your privacy. Your email address will not be shared with a third party, nor will it be sold or used for purposes, other than contacting you about the contest.) OK DONE